Pauline has endured a protracted struggle with her weight. She has always known that her compulsive eating was linked to her emotional issues, but had not found any effective way to deal with those issues - until EFT! I received this email from her after our first session:
I wanted to give you some feedback.
From my very basic understanding of EFT I am already convinced that it is a very powerful tool for change & healing in my life. After just one session with you I have noticed a definite improvement in my relationship with food. The truth is, I have been so preoccupied with some very challenging things this week, that I have not done my tapping until today. So, I have been relying on the one session with you and so far it has been amazing!
I'll give you a practical example, I drove past a restaurant the other day where I've had many happy meals and family celebrations over many, many years. As I drove past I thought 'they have gorgeous cheesecake'.
I then stopped at my local shops on the way home for milk & found myself at the freezer section looking at cheesecakes, I stood there for 3-4 mins thinking I don't want anything in this freezer. I've always known food is my 'drug' & I understand the reasons I overeat, so intellectually I get it, but emotionally it's clearly been too much for me. It was a nice feeling to walk away from the freezer.
This situation has repeated itself over the last week several times at the supermarket, in front of the chip section, even thinking I don't have any need to buy fish & chips because it is freezing outside - I can go home and make a healthy dinner. Having said this, I still have a steady supply of chocolate in the fridge but I can work on this and I believe your treatments will be the answer for me."
Depression and relationship difficulties
Ruth had had a difficult relationship with her daughter Amanda since Amanda was a baby. We did a Matrix Reimprinting session, and that night she emailed me:
"Wanted firstly to say thank you for this morning. It was quite an amazing exercise and I now have insights into myself and Amanda that I've never had before. Decided a couple of weeks ago that these fights must not happen ever again and realised the only way for this to happen was for me to walk a mile in Amanda's shoes. Can't believe how much insight I'm getting as to how difficult it has been to walk in her shoes. Thanks so much for these insights.
What I mainly want to mention to you is that even though things have 'worked out' to some extent inside of myself there was a deep unhappiness. I began to believe that I'd moved into a chronic depressive state. WELL, after doing the tapping work with you this morning for the first time in months and months (literally months and months) I feel absolutely and delightfully happy. It is quite incredible. Am so thrilled. Thank you so much. Amazing stuff Robyn. Thanks again so very much."
(1) Peter does triathlons. We used EFT on various aspects of his training regime that were presenting challenges to him, including swimming in water where he couldn't see the bottom, and breaking through 'the wall' that all endurance athletes encounter at a certain point, when they just want to stop but know that if they keep going they'll get their '2nd wind'. He emailed me the next day:
"I did a training run after our EFT session and felt much more comfortable pushing through the tough stages. I also beat my previous times."
(2) Melissa had recently taken up golf and wanted to improve her game. Our tapping focussed on her feelings of having always been the 'also-ran' in her family, while her older sister garnered all their parents' attention and praise for her achievements. It just so happens that Melissa's older sister is a talented golfer!
Melissa emailed me after our EFT session stating she'd had a significant improvement playing only nine holes but almost doubling her previous best 18 hole Stableford score. After that game she tapped on "that good score must have been a fluke - I got lucky - I'll never do that well again - who am I kidding". She then played another round of nine holes the following day and did even better: "It gives me an indication of what I can achieve," was her comment to me.
Melissa has since had several winning scores in club competition and dropped her handicap by more than 10.
Breastfeeding difficulties linked to traumatic memories
Madeleine phoned me in a desperate state. Her 9-week-old son seemed to be constantly hungry, grizzly and sleeping poorly, and she was worried she was losing her milk. She had had to give her son a top-up bottle of formula on most days because of her low milk supply
Her son had been hospitalised for a mystery illness when he was just 2 weeks old and, although he had quickly and fully recovered, she was haunted by intrusive memories of the sight of his tiny body being pierced by an IV drip, his screams, and the look of fear in his eyes. She felt intensely guilty that she had not been able to protect him from the trauma he’d experienced. Using EFT, we worked through each component of the traumatic memories until Madeleine felt completely at ease with them – in fact, it became difficult for her to call some of them to mind at all.
Then I got to work on the guilt, from several angles until Madeleine spontaneously commented, with conviction, that she had done the best for her son and everything had turned out alright in the end. I gave her a little reminder phrase to use with EFT while she was breastfeeding: “I make rich, abundant milk and it flows like a waterfall!”
She phoned me a few days later to tell me:
"I haven't had to give him a top-up bottle of formula for the past couple of days! My milk supply has really kicked in and I'm letting down quickly and easily - I'm like a waterfall, just like you said!"
Common cold symptoms resolve in minutes
Ramona, one of my naturopathic clients, had phoned me to arrange an appointment. Her nasally voice quickly revealed that she was suffering a heavy cold. She told me it had started to come on yesterday and was now in full swing.
I offered to teach her EFT there and then to see if we could get her some relief. We started by doing some tapping directed at her blocked nose. After one round it had begun to run, so we tapped on that instead. After a few rounds her nose stopped running so, using an EFT technique called ‘Chasing the Pain’ we addressed her ‘exploding head’. We continued to tap on each symptom, one at a time, until it resolved. I advised Ramona to continue tapping throughout the day whenever she had the faintest hint of a cold symptom.
She emailed me the next day:
"I kept tapping as you suggested, every time I felt crook. By the end of that day my cold was completely over! Usually my colds last over a week, so this really knocked my socks off!"
'Love pain' subsides in just a few days
Caroline came to me a few days after breaking up with her lover of 3 years. The break-up had not been initiated by her and she was utterly distraught. We worked intensively on her feelings: grief, fear, hurt, anger, rejection, sadness, confusion, worthlessness, abandoment and guilt, using EFT, and I gave her some tapping homework to continue on with this work.
She rang me a few days later, and told me:
"Before I came to see you I was afraid I’d never feel loved again. I've never felt attractive or worthwhile ever since I was a child. I've had every kind of therapy you can think of for years, but none of them ever helped me the way EFT has. I fully expected to be in the depths of despair for months, like I've been after all my other relationship break-ups. I'm amazed at how fast I managed to work through all my feelings. I'm feeling quite calm now, and I feel positive about myself and my future. "